How to live like a lady, Part 1
No, I am not gonna start giving tips on how to live like a lady. However, I am reading a book titled that by Candance Simpson-Giles. You may wonder why.
To start, I never had any type of etiquette training. In Argentina, growing up in lower middle class and around people that like to be "real", you don't really need it. I don't even know if really rich people behave much different than me and my family and friends.
But when I came to the US I noticed that certain things are done differently, and even though I had the attitude of: "I'm like this, love it or leave it", in the end I want to belong and be accepted and like we all know "In Rome, play like the Romans" (or something of that sort). My husband has been filling me in some etiquette and cultural aspects, but I thought it was about time I read a book on etiquette.
I must say, there are good and bad things about this book. It has interesting points, but it also gives some vague advice.
"A lady doesn't ask married couples when they're getting married. Likewise, she doesn't ask married couples when they're having children"
This one was a total awakening. I can see now, after almost 5 years in the US, why you wouldn't want to bring up sensitive issues among people you just met, or not just met. Maybe the guy has commitment issues, maybe she can't get pregnant. Why make someone feel uncomfortable?
But five years ago, I wouldn't have had any shame in asking someone this. And I think any Argentine, over there, wouldn't either. The thing is, a lot of Argentinians would just say: "we're having problems getting pregnant" and that's it.
This is one of the vague examples:
"A lady knows how to prioritize her life in order to make herself available to family, friends, career, and other important considerations in life".
OOOK, it's nice to know what a lady knows, but, how can I make it happen? No tips on that so far.
Here are some more, that I found interesting:
"If a lady must excuse herself from the dinner table, she simply says 'Excuse me'. NO further explanation is necessary".
I always say: I need to pee really bad. LOL
"A lady uses her turn signals" Of course!!
I hope you like my lady-like pictures of me a during my first year in the US. We went with Lola and Marco, to Birds, a place in Los Feliz (near Hollywood) that we loved.
What do you think? Do you care for etiquette and lady-like rules?
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